Hello there! I’m Rachel, it’s lovely to meet you.
My firm belief is that "we offer others what we need to offer ourselves", and I have spent a lifetime assisting people in unwrapping their issues. If I had only realised that was what I needed, sooner!
Both physically and emotionally, I, like so many, have been challenged throughout my life. When I was 29, I married a gorgeous man, only to have him diagnosed with a brain tumour in our first year of marriage. That first incident I realised much later resulted in PTSD (post-traumatic stress syndrome) from fear of losing him from clonic tonic seizures.
In terms of my own health, I had always suffered headaches. However, these became daily occurrences and migraines became more frequent after my husband's diagnosis, as well as after the discovery that my brother, who has Down Syndrome, was being repeatedly molested at work. Anxiety also played a major role throughout my life. My uncovering of personal childhood trauma that my young mind had shoved away into a hidden corner of my mind to protect herself was the tipping point.
I was tired…not just tired. Exhausted. I was exhausted by the way I dealt with situations day in and day out. I tried many ways to change: determination, willpower and talking about my problems. But these things didn't change. My headaches didn’t change. I didn’t change. I tried everything to fix my physical and emotional pain and as I did so, I noticed that the same patterns kept occurring in my life. And I was still stuck in this cycle of dis-ease within myself.
The change finally came for me when I went beyond the words and the discussions, and dove instead, into the deep root of the problem: the unconscious beliefs that were steering my decisions.
Working with my unconscious brain opened up a world of change that I had never imagined possible.
When I began work on my unconscious, I was shocked to learn that I didn't even realise how much I had been struggling throughout my life. I had some destructive patterns, but I couldn’t even see them. Though I could see them in others quite clearly. However, I could often consciously justify my behaviours (as most of us do). I knew I had been in pain. I knew life had thrown me some less-than-ideal circumstances. But I wasn’t aware of how poorly I spoke to myself or how stunted I was in my ability to trust myself and my decisions. I had been too caught up in my massively ingrained (and some ancestral) beliefs about myself, my thoughts and my patterns to notice what suddenly became so glaringly clear through my work on my unconscious.
Have you ever noticed that when you change one small thing, it has a cascading effect?
When I began to recognise my unhelpful behaviour and patterns for what they were, I was able to learn that those behaviours first came to protect me, but now, they were limiting my life. One new discovery or lesson led to another. Once I started changing unconscious behaviours and thoughts, it changed the way I was in the world.
So, what does this mean for my daily life? It means I am finally able to make decisions and trust them, able to see choices where I once couldn't, able to take risks and thrive, able to face each day with energy and purpose.
I'd love to say my world is perfect now, but you would know I was lying. There is no such thing as perfect for anyone! But what I can say, with happiness, is that I’m now able to treat myself with respect and care. I believe in myself. I trust myself. I love myself. And I find joy and meaning in life again.
As a Mindset coach, I have the skills and expertise to help you transform what is limiting you in your life so you can work to reclaim your health and live with passion and joy.
If you’re here with me right now, I imagine you've tried to make changes in your life and they haven't worked. Please know, it's not because you're lazy, it's not because you haven't wanted to change. It's not because of a lack of effort even if you’ve found yourself procrastinating.
Procrastinating is just a strategy for a brain when it's overloaded and in stress. I hear you say, “how can this be a strategy?”. It’s because when we procrastinate, we are just wanting a quick fix to survive a difficult time. The problem is, it's like eating a jellybean instead of having a meal — it's never going to cut it.
Why put a Band-Aid over a splinter when you could pull it out and not have the issue at all? I don't know how you feel but sometimes pulling out a simple splinter is surprisingly satisfying. Once it's gone so is the pain, and your attention can now go to so many other things. When you transform unconscious beliefs (I’m bad, I’m not good enough,) that were once protecting you but no longer serve, suddenly you can make decisions and see options in your life that you had never noticed before.
I’m here to share this knowledge and techniques with you so I can help you transform your world.
I don't want you to read this and think, “but she doesn't know how hard my life is”, and so dismiss the relevance of unconscious work for your life. Yes, I don't yet know your struggle. I don’t know how many ways you’ve tried to change or been battered or let down. But I do know pain. I know what it feels like to struggle. To feel defeated. To want to give up…
And I also know how dramatically and beautifully this can all change.
You are closer than you think to change. The biggest thing stopping you is not starting.
So take a plunge and trust that you deserve more than a life of struggle. You deserve a life of joy and fulfillment.
And you can find it.